Ask Stephanie anything…: Dear Steph, I find it highly erotic, when an Alpha type female “forces” another sexy female to fuck and suck cock, etc… especially in the course of s BDSM play scene. What do you call this kind of erotic play? A notable example would be Scarlett Pain & Kerry Louise from the Cum Disgrace series.
Thank you!
Viking Prince
Dear Viking Prince,
Thank you for writing and asking such an insightful question. I would call this type of relationship sadomasochism due to the ladies in Cum Disgrace deriving sexual gratification from humiliation of oneself or another person. I feel that you could be attracted to this style of play because you are envisioning yourself as the one committing the dominance over another person in a more forceful manner. Disgrace play tends to originate from the need or desire to have a slave of your own. In my experience, those who want this dynamic tend to want a slave they can manipulate, punish, and control at their will instead of actually caring about the slave.
As an aside, the information/question presented was limited so this is completely my assumption based off of my previous experience with clients with similar erotic tastes and desires. I want to provide that there are many who thrive sexually and emotionally because of disgrace play so if this turns you on sexually then I encourage you to safely explore this style of play.
Dramatically yours,
Stephanie Sigler, MA, NCC, LPC
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