‘Love Is Blind’ and ‘Married at First Sight’ are hugely popular TV shows that have dominated our viewing schedules throughout 2023. We’re obsessed with watching these experiments unfold and all want to know if they really work. Meanwhile, these popular series highlight a number of thought-provoking questions surrounding love, sex, and intimacy.
To help us understand how realistic these shows are and answer the questions we’ve all been asking, JOYclub – an online adult community with over 5M members – has released fascinating new insights into how we genuinely feel about blind love, intimacy, and sexual attraction.
Is Love Really Blind? Do You Need Sex to Fall in Love?
23.9% of people believe that love is blind, saying they also don’t need sex to be romantically involved with someone.
Lara, aka Divine Theratrix, a Conscious kink Facilitator & Qualified Counsellor from JOYclub, has shared her professional thoughts on this finding:
‘Some people do prioritise things other than sex when forming a spousal or romantic bond. There might be many reasons why this is the case, including the possibility of people identifying as being on the ace/aro spectrum of sexuality.
What’s important is that you find someone who shares your priorities. If you both place more significance on other things, this will lay great foundations for a relationship. It’s crucial that you’re on the same page.’
However, 38.1% of people say they would not date someone without having sex with them.
Would You Marry Someone You Hadn’t Had Sex With?
As Married at First Sight’s contestants walk down the aisle, we often hear them say “I want there to be a spark, I hope I fancy them!” – they haven’t met yet, let alone had sex, so there’s no guarantee partners will have a strong intimate connection. While some people can fall in love without having sex, this begs one question; would you marry someone you’d never had sex with?
11.5% of respondents would propose to someone they hadn’t had sex with. However, only 7.1% would marry someone in this circumstance.
The vast majority of people clearly want to get intimate before tying the knot.
Anna*, a JOYclub Member, Says:
‘All of my relationships start with sex; they either stay there or evolve. Marriage before sex? Nope. I need to know that all the pieces fit together.’
Is Sexual Chemistry Blind – Would You Have Sex with Someone if You’d Never Seen Their Face?
Love Is Blind’s contestants strive to fall in love blindly, but can sexual chemistry be blind and based solely on your intellectual and/or spiritual connection?
According to the majority of respondents, yes, it can. 68.1% of people say they would have sex with someone in a dark room, having never seen them. Seemingly, when it comes to spontaneous nights of fun between the sheets, physical attraction isn’t always our top priority.
Per this data, we are much more willing, on average, to have sex blindly than fall in love blindly.
‘Sex is important to most people. It’s so important, in fact, that 68.1% of people say they would have sex with someone they’d met in a dark room and therefore never seen. This shows that for many, sex is an activity we can enjoy without being emotionally involved or having an opinion on the likeability of the person we’re having sex with.
This data also suggests that we’re more willing to have sex blindly than fall in love blindly. For many people, sex isn’t a commitment, so there’s less to lose. Again, this all comes down to your priorities and values. So long as you and your partner(s) are on the same page, you’ll be fine!’
Where Can You Explore Blind Sex?
If you find the concept of blind sex and the mystery it inspires arousing, then you’ll be happy to hear there are plenty of events that can fulfil your desires across the UK.
Looking for something really kinky? Check out London’s most extreme fetish sex parties – BiZarre Events. Hosted by self-proclaimed ‘natural perverts’, these full-on fetish parties allow people to explore their kinks among an intelligent, extravagant crowd with bizarre sub-culture fetishes and (legal) extreme practices. At these events, blind sex would be a vanilla activity!
Judith Langer, Communication Manager at JOYclub, Has Discussed the Popularity of Blind Sex at Kink Events:
‘JOYclub is a safe place for anyone looking to explore sex and fetishes, including singles and couples alike. Our members frequently attend events like masquerade sex parties where they can’t see their partner(s) face or body – they go to enjoy blind sex because that’s what turns them on. For a lot of people, this sense of mystery and anonymity is hugely arousing!’
If you’re already in a committed relationship but want to spice things up this Christmas, there are simple things you can do if you can’t make it to a kinky sex event.
JOYclub have created a sexy Christmas gift guide filled with ideas for your significant other.
For example, consider finding a gift for your partner that encourages exploration and playfulness. These presents invite you both to step out of the ordinary and embark on an exhilarating journey of discovery within your relationship. Instead of giving something material, you can create beautiful, sexy memories. A couples’ game night set or subscription to an intimacy box are great options!
On JOYclub’s website here, you can find the following:
- These insights in full
- Insight into why people find mystery arousing
- A beginner’s guide to blind sex events