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    Dating you own partner

    ASN HUBBy ASN HUBJune 2, 2022No Comments6 Mins Read
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    An article in a swingers magazine about dating your own partner may sound like an oxymoron. But it is not. The lifestyle couples that we know have a strong bond between them and trust each other solidly. And believe it or not, most, date each other regularly.

    Can you date your long-term partner?

    Does it make sense to keep dating your partner after having been together for a few years? Is it even possible? Our experience tells us that the answer to these questions is a resounding double yes!

    It makes even more sense to date your partner after you have settled in together. Dating your partner obliges you to be creative and make a great impression. Come date night, you do your best to woo your better half, all the time savouring the possibility of what is yet to come. It is a great way to show each other that despite being swingers, you still court each other first and foremost.

    Here are our five things to pay attention to when dating your partner:

    Dressing up for your partner

    After a few years, you probably know each other’s wardrobe inside out. Your partner’s collection consists of your absolute favourite, drop-dead pair of jeans, those couple of dresses that are ‘just ok’ and that Star Wars T-shirt you have been doing your best to shrink with each laundry.

    In time, you start gauging your partner’s enthusiasm by the garments he or she puts on. When he’s put on his cool white shirt only to go out with his lifestyle date, somewhere, you may register it as him wanting to impress only others. When she puts on that paisley dress you find barely tolerable for a night out with you, you may file her attitude under ‘disinterested’.

    Bottom line: what you wear for your partner makes a difference.

    Choosing a vanilla venue

    -Baby? Wanna go on a date this Friday?

    I have to admit to getting quite nervous waiting for Aliki’s reply. Would she accept or would she just brush it off, succumb to the monotony of our daily life and opt to stay home in pyjamas? My mobile vibrated a few minutes later.

    -Sure, my love. Where?

    -Fantastic! I’ll take care of it.

    When you choose the venue, don’t take her to her favourite restaurant. It’s too easy! Surprise her instead. Even if the food doesn’t match expectations, the effort is appreciated. I keep a list of enticing places I would like to discover, and I go through it whenever I am taking Aliki out on a date. It makes life easier. And if I’m not inspired by anything on that list, I consult my single friends. They are a great source of what’s hip and trendy in town.

    You don’t have to settle on dining out. It could be a throwback outing to the movies, a club, a jazz joint, theatre, a concert, stand-up comedy… whatever makes it special! My rule of thumb is to prepare the date for her and not for me. It’s not what I would like to do but more what she would appreciate.

    ‘Hey babe, I got us tickets to the latest Avengers movie!’ is a line I know would work on Aliki -because, I am lucky- but not necessarily on all girls.

    Scoring with your partner

    ‘I like it that you put on your sexy Trussardi shirt tonight!’ Aliki told me across the table, giving me the eye.

    I felt great (and got the idea for this article). The woman of my desire had just passed me a compliment with a lustful shine in her eyes. I knew that I had scored!

    It might sound silly. Isn’t it obvious that I would score, given that we have been together for so long? Well, no. Not all. Quite the opposite.

    Precisely because we have been in a years-long relationship, because she has seen me at my worst, throwing up, feverish, drunk and wearing that torn Magic: The Gathering T-Shirt I cannot part with, I consider the chances of scoring with Aliki much lower than average. Each time that it happens, I chalk it down as a victory.

    The prize? The best sex I can get, from someone who knows exactly what fires me up, gets me hot under the collar and juices me up (and then juices me off!)

    Avoiding a close shave

    ‘I badly need to shave!’ I whined to Aliki a few weeks ago, scratching my greying beard.

    ‘Don’t do it next week while I’m away!’ My lover was only half-joking.

    Having a bald scalp does not save one from the drudgery of hair removal. For a couple of weeks, I had abandoned my body hair through a combination of lethargy, laziness, and busyness. Aliki likes me clean-shaven -all the way down- but she clearly interpreted that doing so while she’s away would mean that I didn’t quite do it for her.

    Now, we can go into the psychology of possessiveness and the importance of doing things for oneself. But here I want to focus on doing things for your partner and the positive message it sends out.

    I shaved just the evening we were going out. A few hours later, as Aliki unbuttoned my shirt, her breath smelling of sweet Pouilly-Fuissé, I reaped the benefits.

    Taking your clothes off

    Let’s be honest. The short-term aim of most dates is to lure the person opposite you to bed. That holds as true for your lifestyle playdate as it does for your partner. Hence the importance of thinking in advance about the moment your clothes come off. Avoid putting on your Kylo Ren boxer short!

    Like all lifestyle women, Aliki has a wide range of sexy underwear, and I make it a point to add to her collection regularly. I would be vexed if she would only put them on when we go to a sex party or a swingers club. I want her to dress up and take them off for me primarily. Better still, I want to take them off myself!

    ‘You have been not wearing any undies for the whole evening?!’

    I got an instant hard-on. In the car, I had just put my hands up Aliki’s thighs before getting on the way back home and found out that nothing was keeping my fingers from touching her wet lips.

    There’s nothing better than dating your partner!

    Tell us about our experiences

    We would love to hear your experience: how did you decide to open your relationship? How was your journey in sexual exploration? Send us your thoughts and tips: aliki-xander@coupleofsecrets.com  

    About Couple of Secrets

    We are Aliki and Xander, a sex-positive couple sharing our sexual experiences on our blog, Couple of Secrets (www.coupleofsecrets.com). We firmly believe that the old adage that sex in a committed relationship degenerates over time is plainly wrong. Couple of Secrets is meant to be an inspiration for long-term couples and a guide to sexual exploration, including the Lifestyle.

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